Archive for June, 2008

jenny’s light.

Friday, June 27th, 2008

Jenny’s Light is a not-for-profit organization created by the families of Jennifer Gibbs Bankston and her son Graham in response to a heart-wrenching and tragic story dealing with postpartum depression.

When Jenny found out in March that she was pregnant she seemed very happy, and all their friends and family were so excited too! Unfortunately, Jenny had a difficult pregnancy and was sick for most of the first seven months, and also developed Bell’s palsy that lasted a couple of months. As her due date approached, we made plans to come and stay for the first three weeks after Graham’s birth. On Nov. 1st, 2007, Graham Gibbs Bankston was born at St. Vincent’s Hospital in Birmingham. Everybody was so proud and excited.

Jenny was a real champ during delivery, but she struggled a bit with nursing and was reluctant to take Graham from the house for the first few weeks. She was also adjusting to not working, not getting much sleep, and having to care for her newborn. Other than that, things seemed normal and Graham got easier to care for as the weeks went by.

Then, out of the blue, on Dec. 19th, 2007, Jenny purchased a gun at a sporting goods store in Birmingham and at about 7:00 pm, she went to the backyard and took Graham’s life and then her own.

We are so devastated and shocked by this tragedy that it was a real struggle to write this story. We hope that somehow it might inspire new mothers to seek help and treatment before something like this happens to them. We also want to thank our son Randy, Brian (Becky’s husband) and Chip for their help and support as we try to return some normalcy to our lives.

We are left with many great memories and the chance to help other families avoid having to go through what we are. With your help, Jenny’s Light can make a difference.

This article in The Birmingham News mentioned that Jenny was having trouble with breastfeeding, had a lack of sleep, had quit her career, and was attempting to adjust to being a stay-at-home mother. As I read her story, I couldn’t help but weep as I remembered my own journey of PPD after Drew’s birth. I struggled with those very same issues in my own journey of depression and truly, there but for the grace of God go I.

The mission of Jenny’s Light is to improve detection and treatment of all perinatal mood disorders such as postpartum depression by funding continuing education, research and supportive efforts. We strive to shed light on these illnesses to help mothers, children, and families around the world. By expanding access to care and support for new mothers through our community of volunteers, physicians, educators and legislators, we will save lives.

The first large fundraiser for Jenny’s Light was held recently and over $50,000 was raised. I highly encourage you all to read the story, learn about PPD, and contribute if you can.

My first thought was to choose this charity for Blogathon 2008. However, Blogathon 2008 (where you blog for 24 hours for your chosen charity) has been cancelled. Thankfully, Day of Blogs has been organized as a charity blogging event as an alterna-thon to Blogathon (try to say that three times fast).

On July 26, I will be jumping on the blogging for charity bandwagon. I’ll be posting at least once an hour every 30 minutes for 24 hours (oh my word!) and I’ll have a donate button on my site where you can donate funds that will go straight to Jenny’s Light, my chosen charity. Please ponder between now and July 26 if you could donate just a small bit (I’ll be saving our change too!) towards this charity. And look forward to my day of a gazillion blog posts.

May the God of all love, wisdom, peace, and comfort heal the hearts hurt by the tragedies of postpartum depression.

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[I do not have the Blogathon posts I wrote for the charity any longer.]

downtown with family.

Monday, June 23rd, 2008

While my lovely Grandma Betty has been visiting us from Florida, we have snuck over to my parents home and spent time talking, laughing, and watching Drew enjoy the precious rocking horse she and my Papa Toot (cute name, huh?) bought for him. But tonight we chose to go downtown Greenville and walk the streets, eat dinner, and enjoy spending time with family. Sweet Betty seemed to enjoy it all and she put up with our walking very fast and rushing here and there.

my lovely Grandma Betty

My Dad and Daniel talked through the history of buildings we kept passing and Mom and Betty kept a check on all the cute shops we passed (most were closed because it was a Monday night). It was such a great time spending time with Mom and Dad.

my sweet parents

While eating at Bellacino’s, I attempted to keep Drew entertained with juice, snacks, toys, and books (I’d already fed him before we left). He really thought this ice cream toy was hilarious.

ice cream

It was fascinating to see Drew’s absolute LOVE of being outside. I felt almost rebuked as I suddenly realized that my son is a nature baby and I haven’t really been giving him a chance to enjoy it all lately. The overwhelming heat has been the reason I haven’t been taking a daily walk with him (and um, I can tell because walking downtown tonight was more difficult than it should have been) but I need to creatively work around the heat and make sure he gets a bit of time outside each day.

nature boy

I shared this thought with Mom and she encouraged me to start planning some creative/outdoor outlets for Drew (and me! and Daniel!). Hey, most of it can be free, right?

mom

After dinner we walked down to Reedy River and on the way down the embankment, I stopped to take pictures of the beautiful flowers and greenery. I’d love to see the garden plans for the area. It is gorgeous and designed so well.

flowers

reedy river

reedy river

If you have been downtown Greenville, and walked on the Liberty Bridge, you have more than likely felt the slight swaying of the bridge. Betty kept squealing that the bridge should NOT be swaying and it took a please, please to get her to pose with Mom.

betty & mom

Drew LOVED being on the bridge and looking at the waterfall. He kept playing with the tiny ropes as though they were guitar strings (he spent quite a lot of time playing with Daniel’s guitar this afternoon).

on the bridge

There were a lot of animals in the park, too. I’ve been teaching Drew to say dog and when we saw lots of dogs, he tried his best to say DAH each time. These cutie pies were frisking all over the place and their walkers assured us that THEY were the ones actually being walked. I feel like that whenever I am holding Drew’s hand and he’s running as fast as he can. 😉

precious dogs

The leaves fascinated Drew. He kept checking all about for big leaves and when he’d find them he would bat them back and forth and shriek for joy.

looking for leaves

While Drew played in the grass, a couple nearby (who had a PRECIOUS little boy) kept watching us and smiling. The father walked over finally and asked how old our son was and we started sharing thoughts on children walking early. Their son is 9 months old and as we told them that Drew started walking at TEN months old, they both shared a laugh and said they wondered if they were ready for that. Drew started leaning towards the little boy and whining so they got their son out and introduced him to Drew. It was hilarious to watch and Drew just LOVED it. He started quickly towards the little boy and I thought he might just love him to death so we tried to intervene but then he just wanted to play with his new friend’s stroller. 🙂 When we finally parted ways, Drew SOBBED as his new little friend left. Daniel had to take him down to the water and calm him down.

making friends

Another leaf helped too.

thanks, daddy!

And when Grammy found THIS leaf, well, you can imagine. Drew was squealing with delight.

the golden ticket, i mean leaf

We then met a LOVELY family with a bundle of children. We were so enthralled with their large family (they had two others at home!) that we stopped to talk and take pictures. The children were precious and gathered around to see the pictures we took. I told the mother I’d email her the picture as soon as we got home. It was just another reminder of how wonderful it is to bump into folks in your community and really connect.

the lovely family of lots

As we walked along, I discovered beautiful artwork along the sidewalks. It was so inspirational to see such art. It made me want to rush right home and paint, draw, or cut things out of paper. Instead, I’m curled up in the green chair, resting my feet. But hey, maybe I’ll cut things out of paper tomorrow.

sidewalk art

On our way back to the car, we passed Bellacino’s again and we went in to get a drink to quench our thirst. While inside, I noticed the beautiful molding and asked the guy behind the counter about it. He told me it was original and took me around to show me how this cozy cafe used to be a pharmacy in the 1930’s. The original pharmacy drawers are still in the restaurant. We pulled them out and laughed at how times change.

old pharmacy

So, it was a WONDERFUL evening and after my poor, sweet, darling husband’s day of constant stress, I was very grateful that we had the chance to get out of the house and relax with those we love most.

14 months old.

Friday, June 6th, 2008

bath-time-warrior pose

the golden ticket, i mean leaf

all grownup